This is the year to change your life!
In a few short days, millions of people will make a New Years resolution.
Each resolution represents our sincere desire to craft a better life for ourselves.
There are resolutions to lose weight. We want to make more money. There is a desire start exercising, read more, travel, and spend time with family.
If you could go back and revisit all the past New Year’s resolutions what would they say about who you are today?
When I was younger, I could not wait for the ball to drop on December 31st. I was filled with elation. The year shifted from what was to what is suppose to be.
I enjoyed watching my family make fools of themselves.
Each year at midnight, we would all run outside and scream “HAPPY NEW YEAR!”
The best part? Everyone else did the same. At midnight, we had a short block party. People screaming and shouting. Making their joy known to all. At some point, you would see some grown man walking around in a diaper. His job was to portray the New Years Baby. Although it was funny. It was also disturbing.
You know what I did not hear?
No one screamed out their resolution.
All we did was scream out our excitement, but we never shared how we were planning on making our lives better. We just went back into our homes and slept until morning.
Silently, we made our resolutions.
We marched through the year with our resolutions on our hearts. When the next year approached we would make the same resolutions.
Why? Because we never accomplished the dreams of our hearts.
We could say that our failed resolutions came from the fact that we did not try. It could be that many of us are procrastinators at heart.
You can try to make yourself feel better for not accomplishing your resolution.
The truth is still the truth.
We are not getting any better.
We are making the same resolutions year after year without getting better results.
As the ball drops and the clock strikes midnight, it declares that the old year is gone and the new year is here.
The shifting of years shows a shifting in our hearts as well.
But nothing seems to change.
Professor Timothy Pychyl, Carleton University, states that resolutions are a form of “cultural procrastination.” He believes that resolutions are, “an effort to reinvent oneself.”
When you read a little further into Timothy Pychyl’s work you come to a conclusion. Professor Pychyl believes that resolutions are “people trying to motivate themselves into something better.”
You cannot motivate yourself out a bad habit.
As hard as we try to tell ourselves that, “This year will be better” we will be stuck at the same place next year.
Making more resolutions expecting different results each year.
Saying, “This year will be different!”
No, it won’t.
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It is insanity to think that this year will be different with no real plan in place to make a difference.
Albert Einstein once said, “insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
We all want a better life.
But we must have a bit of insanity. Each year we try to do the same thing over and over again hoping for something different to happen.
You and I do not want to relive the hell we just came from.
Yet we continue to make the same resolution after resolution.
A resolution is just a dream with no real way to get there.[bctt tweet=”A resolution is just a dream with no real way to get there. #resolution2017 #goal ” username=”jim_Burgoon”]
Resolutions are hopes and wishes for a better life. Without an actionable goal, you will just continue in the same cycle as you always have. Wish and Hope, make resolutions and repeat next year. Nothing ever changes.
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A goal is a powerful series of actionable steps to obtain your dream.
When I put my dream down on paper. I move my resolution from a far away dream to possible reality.
Write your goals down, put steps to them, and start walking those steps out I can finally see your dreams come true!
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A goal that is not written down is just a dream.
Our dreams are beautiful. They are the embodiment of everything we hope to accomplish in life. The physical representation of the song our soul is trying to sing.
It is time to let those songs sing.
The time has come to start living your dream.
Here are some practical thoughts that I am walking through with you.
We think that it’s circumstances that are stealing our joy and causing us so much pain. I would say that is only part of it.
The lion’s share of our pain is from the habits we have created to avoid pain.
There are many who are keen to procrastination. Others lash out. Many are prone to anger at the slightest drop of the hat.
It all stems from our habits.
Truth: We are getting what we got in life because of the habits we have built.[bctt tweet=”We are getting what we got in life because of the habits we have built. #badhabits #changeit” username=”jim_Burgoon”]
Every year we craft better resolutions. Stronger wording. Higher accountability. Thinking this year is the year it’ll all change for me.
Year after year we fail to accomplish our resolutions.
We fail to change our lives.
If you want to change your life you have to change your habits.
Where do you start? How do you change them? What habits are sabotaging your dreams?
I think we have to realize that not all habits are bad.
A Good Habit is a positive behavior pattern.
Some common examples of good habits include reading books, great sleeping patterns, exercising, eating right, and a good hygiene routine.
A bad habit is a negative behavior pattern.
Some common examples of bad habits include procrastination, fidgeting, overspending, stereotyping, gossips, bullying, making resolutions your do not keep, and nail-biting.
We have to CELEBRATE the good habits and ERADICATE the bad ones.
Take some time and celebrate yourself.
Celebrate the good habits that you have created!
Then there are this nasty bad habits.
Bad habits keep us from our goals and we must eradicate them.
I warn you. Eradicating your bad habits will not be easy. At times, you will feel like a failure. They will seem as if they will never go away.
Then one day (After 30 days of not doing them to be exact 😉 they are gone!)
When you start to honestly answer 3 and 4 here is what you need to do:
If you set a goal you are setting yourself up for success!
You are financially free, not held back by a regular job, working out more, spending meaningful time family, and enjoying your life.
You are living the dream.
Then all a sudden your dream ends.
Why? Because the bad habits that you ignored showed up and sabotaged your dream. Now you cannot live in what you accomplished because of the habits you are carrying.
I love the Acronym SMART for goal setting. This is not originally mine, but it is very powerful.
S – specific, significant, stretching
M – measurable, meaningful, motivational
A – agreed upon, attainable, achievable, acceptable, action-oriented
R – realistic, relevant, reasonable, rewarding, results-oriented
T – time-based, time-bound, timely, tangible, trackable
Goals that follow THE SMART WAY are goals that get accomplished.
As you can see it is a doable and realistic goal that I can TOTALLY ROCK this year.
This year is YOUR year.
No more resolutions
It’s time to set goals and walk into our dream.
I would love to hear from you. In the comments below let me know a goal that you are setting this year!
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