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How to reclaim your joy

You use to experienced joy, but it feels like that time is gone. The great news is that your joy can be reclaimed. Let me show you how to reclaim your joy.

Reclaiming the joy you once knew.

Do you remember the greatest times of your childhood when you experienced the most joy?

The times when you smiled and laughed. There wasn’t a care in the world. All you knew was that you were enjoying life and no one could take that away from you.

Somewhere along the way we grew up. 

The pain of life was deeper than we like to admit.

Yesterday we smiled. We were full of joy. Today, we are trying to hang on. Faced with the emotional scarring of life. Praying that we could find the joy that we once knew.

What if I told you there was a way you could get that back. 

Wouldn’t you like to know how to start the process?

You use to experienced joy, but it feels like that time is gone. The great news is that your joy can be reclaimed. Let me show you how to reclaim your joy.

I remember when I was a child. The sites and sounds of Christmas were electrifying. There was an endless amount of joy as I anxiously waited for Santa Claus to bring me whatever gifts he had for me.

Then, as the years passed, I grew up.

Facing painful experience after painful experience my heart was set on pushing away anything that brough me pain. Learning quickly that you had to harden your heart or you could be condemned to feel all the pain of your life.

[bctt tweet=”I hardened my heart, but I didn’t expect that it would steal my joy as well. #joy ” username=”jim_Burgoon”]

I thought I was protecting myself.

If my heart was hard then no one could hurt me.

That was my thought process. The harder I became the less pain I felt.

I thought I was invincible, but what I didn’t realize that it would shut me down. My heart didn’t feel anything. It was numb. I would cut the palm of my hand just to feel the pang of pain and see my blood. this made me feel like I was still alive.

[bctt tweet=”Hardening your heart doesn’t grant invincibility it makes you numb. #numb #joyless” username=”jim_Burgoon”]

When you are numb to the world you do not have any concept of Joy.

You do not feel joy.

Ultimately, you desire something that you can never gain.

All because you decided to harden your heart instead of taking control of your life.

Don’t harden your heart. Deal with the pain. Take control of your life. (tweet)

Today, you can reclaim your joy! 

Yes, you read that right. Today is your day. The day that you can make the decision to own your life and live it how you want to.

Think of it this way.

Today is Christmas Eve.

I understand you may be reading this today or you may be reading this in June. Realize that I wrote this on Christmas Eve though 🙂  Why? Because I believe you are created to experience joy in your life.

I believe you can start today. Start what? Start reclaiming your joy. live to the fullest potential you can live.

Today is Christmas Eve.

The greatest gift you can give to yourself is to reclaim your joy. 

Say it with me, “Today, I pledge to start the hard process of reclaiming my joy” 

Now click the below button to tweet it and let the world know: 

[bctt tweet=”Today, I pledge to start the hard process of reclaiming my joy! #pledge #reclaim #joy” username=”jim_Burgoon”]

If you just declared that (and tweeted it) I am so honored that you decided to say yes to the challenge of reclaiming your joy.

I am going to be praying for you!

If you rolled your eyes and said thought it was stupid.

I am praying for you as well. 😉

Before you go, I want to give you 3 quick tips on how to start the process of reclaiming your joy.

3 Practical Steps to Reclaim Your Joy

1. Choose to experience joy. 

I think one of the greatest lies that we tell ourselves is that we cannot choose joy. That joy is this fleeting emotion that is so elusive that we can never seem to catch it. If we do catch joy we seem to be unable to hold onto it for long.

[bctt tweet=”I think one of the greatest lies that we tell ourselves is that we cannot choose joy. #decide #joy #today” username=”jim_Burgoon”]

Saying that you cannot choose joy is so far from the truth. 

Happiness comes and goes, but joy is something much deeper. Joy is a deep sense of rejoicing and feelings of elations.

These feelings of joy are so deep that when you have them no one can steal them from you.

The first thing we can do it to decide that we want a life of joy. 

This isn’t a wishy-washy declaration with no teeth. You are declaring something powerful. You are taking charge of your life.  The words from your heart are that you will have joy in your heart and will move towards obtaining it.

The first thing you will do it to create actionable steps and goals.

It could mean you are going to start seeing a professional therapist. You may start to exercise, eat better, watch less T.V., or even learn to destress.

Whatever goal you set you can achieve it once you decide that today is the day you will start walking in joy.

Remember, you get to choose to experience joy. 

The opposite is also true. You can choose to be miserable. Complaining, nagging, and numbness will be the story they tell about your life. Why? Because we decided to be miserable and not choose the best lift for us.

[bctt tweet=”You get to choose to experience joy or not. #joy #christmas #gift” username=”jim_Burgoon”]

2. Get around others who live in joy.

I know you have heard the old adage that misery loves company. It is true that hurting people hurt people. Just as it is true that when someone is miserable they want everyone around them to be just as miserable.

The opposite is true as well. Those who are joyful will attract others who are full of joy. Like insects to a flame. When someone is full of healthy joy it will draw people to it.

John C. Maxwell wrote about the 21 Laws of Leadership. One of the laws that spoke to me the most is the Law of the inner Circle. This law states dictates that a leader’s potential comes from those that are closest to him – the team.

Why? Because the leader will often become like those that he puts around him. The same principle works here.

You become the people you hang out with. 

When your inner circle is joyless, angry, and nagging complainers you will become them. It will only take you 5 years to do it.

When you surround yourself with people who are joyful and happy. Then you will become like them over the next 5 years.  

It is all about who your inner circle is. 

You will look like the people that are closest to you. Choose Wisely.

[bctt tweet=”You will look like the people that are closest to you. Choose Wisely. #joy #friends” username=”jim_Burgoon”] [bctt tweet=”To reclaim your joy you have to surround yourself with people of Joy. #decide #joy #today” username=”jim_Burgoon”]

3.  Get to know the One who is joy.

I make no apologies for being a faith-based guy. My faith in Jesus is why I walk in a lot of Joy.

My suggestion is to surround yourself with quality people who will fill you with joy.

There is no one I know who is better than Jesus. He is the literal embodiment of joy. 

As I build a deeper relationship with Jesus I am seeing more and more joy in my life. I am not just talking about moments of joy. This is a sustained joy.

I have a long way to go, but I am continually walking in more and more joy.

[bctt tweet=”As I build a deeper relationship with Jesus I am seeing more and more joy in my life. #jesus #joy” username=”jim_Burgoon”]

You have to understand something. I grew up in a city that swallows joy. It eats it away and leaves people with joyless lives devoid of meaning.

My own journey through this life has had many ups and downs. In the beginning of my life, there were a lot more downs than ups. I spent many years anger, in pain, suffering, lonely, and living with a severe lack of happiness and joy.

But now?

My life has been completely different.

I met Jesus. My decision was that I WILL have joy in my life. I surrounded myself with quality people who walk in joy. 

The results?

I am currently walking in a level of joy that I did not know possible.

There are still challenges, trials, and tribulations.

The difference?

I don’t let it steal my joy.

Today, you can walk in that level ( or even higher levels) of joy as well.

Your Next step: You have to choose to experience Joy.

I would love for you to join the conversation!

How have you started to recapture your joy? 

Comment below!

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  • Maryanne says:

    Interesting tips! thank you for sharing this post!

  • Great tips you have here. Thanks for sharing.

  • I like how you titled it “reclaim your joy” … it requires action on our part. Too often I’m passive in my pursuit of joy. I just expect it to come. Good reminder, thanks!

    • Jim says:

      I love this reply! We always seem to expect things like joy and peace. However, we need to run after it and grab hold of it! Thank you for joining the conversation!

  • Wildish Jess says:

    I think this goes for everything in life. I hate when people let experiences define negativity in their life instead of making the decision to not let it.

    • Jim says:

      So true! It is sad when we allow what’s wrong with our lives to overshadow everything that is right with it. Thank you for joining the conversation!

  • Aleks F. says:

    Wonderful article especially for this time of year but definitely always! We must never lose our joy! It is the best part of life!

  • Elizabeth O. says:

    I think it’s awesome to allow yourself to experience joy and to spread it to those around you asxwell. Joy allows us to see things positively, without it life would be dull.

    • Jim says:

      Thank you for your kind words! Yes, I so agree! Live can be so dull without joy! Part of my heart is to help people reclaim joy. I want people to enjoy their lives to the fullest. Thank you for joinging the conversaton!

  • I really needed to read this (: I have been feeling numb for awhile and now I realize that I need to start choosing joy.

    Isaly Holland

  • I really agree with the part where you said “you become the people you hang out with”.

    • Jim says:

      It is an incredibly powerful principle. If you want to change your life you must start looking at yourself and those you put around you. Thank you for joining the conversation!

  • Anonymous says:

    This is one of the most amazing post I’ve ever read..Beautifully written.
    Joy is in small things which we take for granted sometimes.
    ” The pain of life was deeper than we like to admit ” , felt nostalgic after reading this quote.

    • Jim says:

      Thank you for such kind words! You are so correct. Joy is in the small things. A baby’s laugh. Your significant others happiness. Thank you for joinging the conversation!

  • Chrissy says:

    These are great tips, I need to reclaim my joy myself!

    • Jim says:

      I think so many of us have to!!! It is hard to pinpoint, but someone (In all our lives) we lose that prcious gift of Joy! This year is the year to reclaim them!

  • amanda says:

    a great time of year to talk about rediscovering joy – bringing back that child like feeling of childhood and xmas

  • Melly C says:

    That’s a great reminder. I am trying to find my joy in small things that are often overseen. Even if there is a lot of negativity around there is still something positive somewhere…

  • Angela Zimsky says:

    I have been having a very rough week and seem to be having a difficult finding joy as of recently.

  • Laura says:

    One of the greatest pieces of advice I’ve ever heard [and which my husband reminds me of occasionally] is this:
    When you wake up, tell yourself, “Today is going to be a good day.”
    It sounds silly… but it does, in fact, work.
    I’ve heard it said that it takes 10 days to create a habit and less than 2 minutes to break it. Mindfulness is key here. As Christians, we say that “Today is the day the Lord has made.” Every. Day. Is the day the Lord has made. This morning, I woke up and my heart was still beating. No matter culture, creed or religion, we can appreciate the life within us.
    Revel in the first morning breath, taking in the crisp, cool air and tell ourselves “Today is going to be a good day.” As the habit forms, it will become more and more true — not only does it create joy, but gratefulness and a gentle acceptance of circumstances, no matter how bad.

    • Jim says:

      Thank you for joining the conversation! It is always a blessing to hear other’s perspectives on the topic. I agree with the consistent discipline of the mind. That we have to continually remind ourselves that today is our day! I don’t believe that is the power of positive thinking, but training your brain to experience Joy!! Thanks you for the comment!

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