Reclaiming the joy you once knew.

Do you remember the greatest times of your childhood when you experienced the most joy?

The times when you smiled and laughed. There wasn’t a care in the world. All you knew was that you were enjoying life and no one could take that away from you.

Somewhere along the way we grew up. 

The pain of life was deeper than we like to admit.

Yesterday we smiled. We were full of joy. Today, we are trying to hang on. Faced with the emotional scarring of life. Praying that we could find the joy that we once knew.

What if I told you there was a way you could get that back. 

Wouldn’t you like to know how to start the process?

I remember when I was a child. The sites and sounds of Christmas were electrifying. There was an endless amount of joy as I anxiously waited for Santa Claus to bring me whatever gifts he had for me.

Then, as the years passed, I grew up.

Facing painful experience after painful experience my heart was set on pushing away anything that brough me pain. Learning quickly that you had to harden your heart or you could be condemned to feel all the pain of your life.

I hardened my heart, but I didn’t expect that it would steal my joy as well. #joy Click To Tweet

I thought I was protecting myself.

If my heart was hard then no one could hurt me.

That was my thought process. The harder I became the less pain I felt.

I thought I was invincible, but what I didn’t realize that it would shut me down. My heart didn’t feel anything. It was numb. I would cut the palm of my hand just to feel the pang of pain and see my blood. this made me feel like I was still alive.

Hardening your heart doesn’t grant invincibility it makes you numb. #numb #joyless Click To Tweet

When you are numb to the world you do not have any concept of Joy.

You do not feel joy.

Ultimately, you desire something that you can never gain.

All because you decided to harden your heart instead of taking control of your life.

Don’t harden your heart. Deal with the pain. Take control of your life. (tweet)

Today, you can reclaim your joy! 

Yes, you read that right. Today is your day. The day that you can make the decision to own your life and live it how you want to.

Think of it this way.

Today is Christmas Eve.

I understand you may be reading this today or you may be reading this in June. Realize that I wrote this on Christmas Eve though 🙂  Why? Because I believe you are created to experience joy in your life.

I believe you can start today. Start what? Start reclaiming your joy. live to the fullest potential you can live.

Today is Christmas Eve.

The greatest gift you can give to yourself is to reclaim your joy. 

Say it with me, “Today, I pledge to start the hard process of reclaiming my joy” 

Now click the below button to tweet it and let the world know: 

Today, I pledge to start the hard process of reclaiming my joy! #pledge #reclaim #joy Click To Tweet

If you just declared that (and tweeted it) I am so honored that you decided to say yes to the challenge of reclaiming your joy.

I am going to be praying for you!

If you rolled your eyes and said thought it was stupid.

I am praying for you as well. 😉

Before you go, I want to give you 3 quick tips on how to start the process of reclaiming your joy.

3 Practical Steps to Reclaim Your Joy

1. Choose to experience joy. 

I think one of the greatest lies that we tell ourselves is that we cannot choose joy. That joy is this fleeting emotion that is so elusive that we can never seem to catch it. If we do catch joy we seem to be unable to hold onto it for long.

I think one of the greatest lies that we tell ourselves is that we cannot choose joy. #decide #joy… Click To Tweet

Saying that you cannot choose joy is so far from the truth. 

Happiness comes and goes, but joy is something much deeper. Joy is a deep sense of rejoicing and feelings of elations.

These feelings of joy are so deep that when you have them no one can steal them from you.

The first thing we can do it to decide that we want a life of joy. 

This isn’t a wishy-washy declaration with no teeth. You are declaring something powerful. You are taking charge of your life.  The words from your heart are that you will have joy in your heart and will move towards obtaining it.

The first thing you will do it to create actionable steps and goals.

It could mean you are going to start seeing a professional therapist. You may start to exercise, eat better, watch less T.V., or even learn to destress.

Whatever goal you set you can achieve it once you decide that today is the day you will start walking in joy.

Remember, you get to choose to experience joy. 

The opposite is also true. You can choose to be miserable. Complaining, nagging, and numbness will be the story they tell about your life. Why? Because we decided to be miserable and not choose the best lift for us.

You get to choose to experience joy or not. #joy #christmas #gift Click To Tweet

2. Get around others who live in joy.

I know you have heard the old adage that misery loves company. It is true that hurting people hurt people. Just as it is true that when someone is miserable they want everyone around them to be just as miserable.

The opposite is true as well. Those who are joyful will attract others who are full of joy. Like insects to a flame. When someone is full of healthy joy it will draw people to it.

John C. Maxwell wrote about the 21 Laws of Leadership. One of the laws that spoke to me the most is the Law of the inner Circle. This law states dictates that a leader’s potential comes from those that are closest to him – the team.

Why? Because the leader will often become like those that he puts around him. The same principle works here.

You become the people you hang out with. 

When your inner circle is joyless, angry, and nagging complainers you will become them. It will only take you 5 years to do it.

When you surround yourself with people who are joyful and happy. Then you will become like them over the next 5 years.  

It is all about who your inner circle is. 

You will look like the people that are closest to you. Choose Wisely.

You will look like the people that are closest to you. Choose Wisely. #joy #friends Click To Tweet To reclaim your joy you have to surround yourself with people of Joy. #decide #joy #today Click To Tweet

3.  Get to know the One who is joy.

I make no apologies for being a faith-based guy. My faith in Jesus is why I walk in a lot of Joy.

My suggestion is to surround yourself with quality people who will fill you with joy.

There is no one I know who is better than Jesus. He is the literal embodiment of joy. 

As I build a deeper relationship with Jesus I am seeing more and more joy in my life. I am not just talking about moments of joy. This is a sustained joy.

I have a long way to go, but I am continually walking in more and more joy.

As I build a deeper relationship with Jesus I am seeing more and more joy in my life. #jesus #joy Click To Tweet

You have to understand something. I grew up in a city that swallows joy. It eats it away and leaves people with joyless lives devoid of meaning.

My own journey through this life has had many ups and downs. In the beginning of my life, there were a lot more downs than ups. I spent many years anger, in pain, suffering, lonely, and living with a severe lack of happiness and joy.

But now?

My life has been completely different.

I met Jesus. My decision was that I WILL have joy in my life. I surrounded myself with quality people who walk in joy. 

The results?

I am currently walking in a level of joy that I did not know possible.

There are still challenges, trials, and tribulations.

The difference?

I don’t let it steal my joy.

Today, you can walk in that level ( or even higher levels) of joy as well.

Your Next step: You have to choose to experience Joy.

I would love for you to join the conversation!

How have you started to recapture your joy? 

Comment below!